Because I just can’t hold it in

by Andie Mitchell on May 31, 2011

When I see someone do well, in any capacity, I want nothing more than to celebrate. Toss a fistfull of ‘fetti in the air above her head and grab that megaphone of mine.

[tap] Ahem. Excuse me?

I need to take a moment to positively shovel praise all over you.

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I can see why some tend to think of praise in the same way they might consider their bank account- a constant transaction of spending and saving. Receiving compliments builds you up, adds to your self savings, and maybe makes you feel freer to spend your time- your days, your energy- pursuing whatever just jazzes you.

When someone breaks you down, you’re poorer for it. You worry when you’ll feel so secure again. Can I get back to that place- where I had, I was- enough?

But when I give a compliment, when I stop abruptly on a crosswalk to tell someone they’ve just taken my breath away, when I brake to bleed smiles over a decent doing, I don’t feel like my account is suffering for it.

And this happens no less than twice each day.

Because I’m giving does not mean someone is taking.

Because I’m passing out praise as I do Halloween candy- in fistfuls- doesn’t mean I won’t have any left over to sweeten my own self.

Because I’m thinking to myself as I see you enter a room, and must- oh I must- tell you, that, you are glowing and sexy and commanding of the entire length of my attention, doesn’t mean that I don’t- that I can’t- glow so golden for another.

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Because I see you labor and ask you how- how, how, how?- you find such strength and motivation, doesn’t mean that I can’t be powerful just the same.

Because that thing you did that meant something, anything, to me? However teeny tiny or eensy weensy? However unaffecting and unnoticeable? Well it spoke to me. About you, about me.

It spoke.

Because the way you smiled of waved or held that elevator open for my hurry or told me something that turned my day right-side-up, I can’t help but pause to thank you.

It changed me. The way I felt, the way I saw the day; it tendered me.

Because you said something that set some part of me so on fire, I’ll waft those flames your way when you’re cold.

Because my mother told me of my life- from birth to 135lbs bigger than I could carry- that I was positively radiant- I want you to know, to feel, that, too.

Because I’ve felt unappreciated, I’ll clap loud when I can for you. Even all by ourselves. When no one else can hear for miles.

Because I’ve walked on pins and needles, I’ll pick them up as best I can before you set your tootsies down.

Because I’ve thought myself to be a loser- lesser than less- and then even that decimal amount divided by two- I’ll spend half a year showing you why you’re more. And maybe learn that I’m more, in turn.

Giving you warmth doesn’t leave me cold.

Letting you borrow all the good vibes I have on me, today, doesn’t mean the one I have left can’t multiply and grow and bloom without me taking it all back.

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Just because my day feels cloudy with a chance of rain doesn’t mean your sunshine burns me.

Just because you are positvely roc-king that top, that dress, that life of yours, it doesn’t paint me unpretty.

We’ll all be that, a vision, in our own way, in our own time.

{ 63 comments… read them below or add one }

Bee May 31, 2011 at 9:38 pm

<3 When you're such a beautiful person on the inside, good things come back to you.


Rachel May 31, 2011 at 10:32 pm

I think I’m going to have to switch you on my google reader from my foodies folder to the inspirational one. Bookmarked this page for the days I need it!


Lauren Welsh May 31, 2011 at 11:28 pm

Wow, this completely made my day. What a great post


Halley June 1, 2011 at 12:19 am

I think this is one of my favorite posts Andie. It makes me feel inspired and warm. I love how you connect people through love. So. amazing.


Liv @ The Salty n' Sweet June 1, 2011 at 2:17 am

Wow, such a powerful post!

Thanks for reminding me that everyone needs to be appreciated OUT LOUD. There’s so much strength in a compliment or a show of strong support :)


Cait @ Beyond Bananas June 1, 2011 at 2:38 am

What an amazing post, Andie. Power to you for celebrating OTHER’S successes so willingly! Compliments and positive words to others.. be it friends are complete strangers hold so much power.. and can change the moment.. the day.. or even the life. of the recipient!


Lauren at Keep It Sweet June 1, 2011 at 2:42 am

I love this! I try to be the same way because why not tell someone how wonderful/beautiful/smart you think they are? It can only make them happy!


Ana Maria June 1, 2011 at 3:24 am

oh, man. just wonderful, wonderful, wonderful!


Johnny June 1, 2011 at 3:33 am

Your well of kindness, and love can only be refilled if we drink from it! The more we drink, the more there is to tap into! The water becomes clearer, the taste more apealing!

You have experienced this and I’ll bet you couldn’t not if you tried! Life is so much more when we spread joy and caring. Knowing that we have touched someone and knowing that it was in a positive way helps us become more loving. The shield against the negative gets stronger and we even find ourselves sharing that positiveness even with those who only know negative.

This post never fails to inspire me. Thank you so very much! :)


Leanne (Bride to Mrs.) June 1, 2011 at 4:28 am

I’m so happy I stumbled onto your blog.. I always look forward to these posts. You write beautifully. Have a great day Andie :)


Corinna June 1, 2011 at 4:41 am

I adore you. I love your posts and your energy that comes through with each and every one. Thank you Andie.


Ellen @ Black and White and Loved All Over June 1, 2011 at 5:05 am

you are such a sweet spirit! inspiring in so many ways. thank you Andrea!


stephanie June 1, 2011 at 5:07 am

gosh, I am having one of those grey and insecure days and I wish I had a person like you here right now that will tell my how awesome I am and how great I am doing! This period in my life is CHAOTIC.. and I have control but seem to loose it once in a while, and I go crazy when I do! blergh…..
SUNSHINE! will try to keep that in mind…. :)



Kristen June 1, 2011 at 10:58 am

You ARE awesome :) It sounds so cheesy, but I absolutely love this quote “It is always darkest just before the dawn”…if it is hard and dreary right now, it must mean the sun is about to shine its light down on you soon.
The crazy and chaotic is there so that we may appreciate the sane and calm.
Keep pushing on friend.



Angela @ Eat Spin Run Repeat June 1, 2011 at 5:11 am

This is so beautiful Andie! I agree that giving praise is SO important, and thank you for the reminder that I should do it more. I think that, so often in life, we only make comments when things are going wrong, or when someone isn’t doing something the way we want them to. However, it’s just as important (if not moreso) to let them know when they’re doing ahhmazingggg too. And for the record, YOU are amazing!


Denise June 1, 2011 at 5:54 am

God bless your mother for being such a cheerleader! Those of us who didn’t have a mother like that still struggle. But I feel your joy and share it; I like to compliment others, too, because I have been acquired the gift of being able to see beauty all around me, too. It lifts us all up, doesn’t it? Bless you and have a wonderful day!


LizAshlee June 1, 2011 at 6:02 am

Positively inspiring!!!!!!


Sarah@The Flying ONION June 1, 2011 at 6:16 am

Lovely, lovely post!! Simply lovely.


Riss June 1, 2011 at 6:18 am

You are such a ray of sunshine, dear Andie.


Mya June 1, 2011 at 6:30 am

I love that you shared this. It’s such a wonderful reminder to everyone. You know those warm, fuzzy feelings? Yeah? I have one now.
I’m just like you in this respect. I am 99% sure people think I’m crazy when I stop a complete stranger to give a compliment/say something nice, but you know what? If that’s the case, then color me insane. Because I know how I feel when someone does that for me. It can make my entire week sometimes.
And it’s something I -must- do. I can’t stop myself. Thank goodness for some unstoppable impulses, huh? :)


Mila @ loftyappetite June 1, 2011 at 6:44 am

You are so inspiring. Your words stir up such strong emotions, I get goosebumps everytime! Instead of letting the stress of work overwhelm and bury me, I will make it a point to compliment someone at every meeting I have today. I’m sure it will not only help me realize that people are more important than spreadsheets, but help others cheer up in a really negative environment. Thank YOU.


Shanna, like Banana June 1, 2011 at 7:00 am

I love this. Your heart is beautiful Andrea — truly radiant.


Carol June 1, 2011 at 7:06 am

Just thank you. This made a rather difficult day so much brighter. ;-D


LG June 1, 2011 at 7:12 am

mmmm. Wonderful post! Positivity is its own reward, I’m slowly learning. :0)


Kelly June 1, 2011 at 7:32 am

Thanks Andie!! You made me smile! :)


Carissa June 1, 2011 at 7:41 am

Wonderful bursts of joy in this post! It makes me want to pass on the smiles. Thank you!


Amanda R. June 1, 2011 at 8:40 am

The absolutely amazing thing about sharing the happy gooies is that they multiply exponentially when shared, kind of like spores.


Brittany June 1, 2011 at 9:22 am

Love love LOVE this!! You seriously just made my morning..I am going to give two people compliments today. What a positively uplifting idea. I heart you…(too soon?) Baha.


Euniece[innerpeacehealthytreatsrunningfeet] June 1, 2011 at 9:24 am

your post always brighten my day and make me smile. thank you :)


Mandy June 1, 2011 at 9:45 am

Wow. I’m in an ongoing struggle with depression (am I depressed because I’m overweight, or am I overweight because I’m depressed…) but I can definitely see how showering others could lift my mood. My new goal is going to be to praise two people unrelentlessly every day, thanks for the inspiration!


brandi June 1, 2011 at 9:54 am

I love this. All of it, every bit.


Jo @ Jo In the Kitchen June 1, 2011 at 10:36 am

You are amazing!


Gina June 1, 2011 at 10:37 am

You are so present in life…and it comes out as this radiant, powerful energy that can change people’s lives!


Wendi @ Earth, Wind and Fire June 1, 2011 at 10:43 am

I LOVE this post!! That was the biggest lesson I learned in life. That by giving doesn’t mean I’m giving up something but that I’m in a way, giving to myself.

Love Love Love!


Barefootcookingirl June 1, 2011 at 11:02 am

I bless my “Daily dose of Andie”. Here’s a virtual Big Hug you wonderful human being! Thank you for sharing this! :)


Bianca @ Confessions of a Chocoholic June 1, 2011 at 11:03 am

“Giving you warmth doesn’t leave me cold” – so, so true! I dole out compliments when I can, because of everything you just said :) Great post.


Mary @ Fervent Foodie June 1, 2011 at 11:05 am

Did you get your hair cut? It looks super cute!


Alexa @ Simple Eats June 1, 2011 at 11:23 am

I forget about giving more compliments because I never remember how much they always make my day. You’re such a giving person!


Rebecca @ How the Cookies Crumble June 1, 2011 at 11:28 am

I couldn’t agree with you more! I also believe in telling people they have food in their teeth, pick that piece of hair/lint of someone back, and letting people know their tags hanging out.

Great post!


Martha June 1, 2011 at 11:55 am

This post was like a breath of fresh air. Thank you.


MelissaNibbles June 1, 2011 at 12:06 pm

I wish I could be like you. hahaha!


Leah @ Why Deprive? June 1, 2011 at 12:16 pm

You’re just awesome. The fact that you try (and succeed) to make the world a better place simply by making the people around you happier, its inspiring. We need more people like you.


Laura June 1, 2011 at 3:09 pm

This was so amazing. I think I am going to print it out and keep it everywhere, my bathroom, my car, my office. Thanks for sharing :)


Nikki June 1, 2011 at 3:55 pm

Me too! I love complimenting people. And just because I’m loving them doesn’t mean I’m depleting my esteem supply. It grows it!


Emma @ La Vie en Ginger June 1, 2011 at 4:23 pm

So true and so wise. I’ve always felt that one of the strongest indicators of a person’s character is their ability to feel happy for others when they succeed. Pardon my French, but there’s a lotta jealous bitches out there, ya know? And it’s a shame. I’ve always been a person who’s quick to shower others with praise, so I find it particularly jarring when something exciting happens for me and someone I thought was a friend either starts acting weird and distant or I find out they’re saying nasty things behind my back. When my friends succeed, I just think it’s awesome that I have such cool friends. And I would 100% rather have someone think “OMG that weird stranger just smiled at me” than walk around with a dark cloud over their day. You’re so spot-on—it costs me nothing (in fact, I can’t think of a single time I felt worse for passing on positive energy to someone else. It almost always brightens my mood as much as it does theirs), yet it can make all the difference.


nicole June 1, 2011 at 5:43 pm

so true, so true. And well said.


Parita June 1, 2011 at 5:56 pm

One word comes to mind after reading this post…beautiful!


Cassie June 1, 2011 at 6:32 pm

You are such a beautiful person. I look forward to reading your latest installment every day. You’re probably lucky you live like 2,000 miles away from me. I would totally stalk you and try to be your friend. Just sayin.


Katherine June 1, 2011 at 9:40 pm

I love your writing, you remind me why I love life so much. There is something about you that reminds me of what I love about myself and it makes me strive to be a better and better person.
Your mother is right! You are radiant!


Caitlin June 2, 2011 at 4:53 am

If there were more people in this world as articulate, thoughtful, lovely and full of heart as you are, dare I say it would be a much more enjoyable place to be day in and day out.

I loved reading this mostly because I think I already knew this about you – even never having met you, I just knew you had this kind of love in you. Maybe that’s what drew me to you in the first place? Regardless, I loved this. I love you. I love your words, thoughts, deeds and beautiful soul. You my dear have just made my whole WEEK.


Liz @ Tip Top Shape June 2, 2011 at 7:07 am

Wonderful post! A compliment really can turn a person’s day around-even a simple smile. And I think it usually benefits the person giving the compliment, too. You get some interaction there, and who doesn’t feel good about making someone’s day brighter?


Naomi June 2, 2011 at 7:08 am

this is so inspiring and makes me feel joyful. i’m going to save this post so that i can refer back to it on bad days.


Dana June 2, 2011 at 6:23 pm

Pieces like this are one of the numerous reasons why I keep reading your blog. Loved this!


Stacey June 3, 2011 at 4:09 am

I started reading your blog for the yummy food, and I stay for the amazing blogs like these. Really. Thank you.


Megan (Braise The Roof) June 3, 2011 at 7:43 am


PS, I needed to hear that today. :)


The Chocolate Covered Kitchen June 5, 2011 at 8:18 am

How empowering to read a message of empathy and support in these hyper-competitive days where even cooking shows are based on who can beat the other. Imagine how much further each of us goes when we support the successes of those around us. Bravo, Andie, well done!


Tina @ Faith Fitness Fun June 6, 2011 at 3:11 am

The littlest things can make such a huge impact and I have no doubt that you’re making a huge impact.


Allie June 20, 2011 at 9:28 pm

I just wanted to tell you what an amazing writer you are… this was absolutely one of the most beautiful posts I’ve read, and if it’s as accurate a reflection of you as I’m sure it is, lucky are the people that surround you.


Anastasia September 23, 2011 at 9:19 am

This is my most favorite post of yours!


colette January 3, 2012 at 11:47 am

This is my favorite post (so far… I still have lots of catching up to do!). I feel/have felt these very same sentiments so often and it’s uplifting to see it so eloquently expressed on “paper”. It reminds me of a children’s book I love called “Have You Filled a Bucket Today?”. Next time you are in B&N you should take a look… It seems to me that you are the definition of a “bucket filler”. :)


Lacey January 3, 2012 at 2:02 pm

This post is the best. I am a little in love with you! You have shed a new light on many different aspects of my life with your blog (not to mention you are thoroughly entertaining). Thank you so so much for doing what you do. Reading is a true joy. Also, thank you for taking the time to email back in response to my comments. You cannot imagine how your responses have brightened my day!


Amber January 4, 2012 at 7:48 pm

I am in love with this post!! I just found your website. I feel completely inspired, and I very much enjoy reading your blog! I also have your chocolate-chip cookie amazingness chilling in the fridge to be baked tomorrow! I like that you make weight-loss and fitness a huge inside makeover as well as the outside. Keep it up!


Megan January 26, 2012 at 1:45 pm

You are absolutely the sweetest girl ever. You deserve every amazingly great thing that you get in life.


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